Straight men with gay experiences

TL;DR I'm a straight guy who experimented with a gay guy simply because I wasn't sure I was straight. Well I actually went through with it. I thought about bailing so much. But I had a few beers (not drunk) and went forward with it. Guy was cool, not pushy, and understanding that this was my first time. Accept it or not, a lot of us — straight folks — have been exposed to homosexual encounters. Not strictly in the bedroom, but sometimes in the form of casual flirting at a bar or a rough move in public. One straight gentlemen, on the condition of anonymity, had accepted a blanket during a bus travel from a male passenger next to him upon being insisted to.

I've known and been friends with several gay guys, but they all knew I was straight and wouldn't ever have tried anything on. I've never been hit on by a guy save on sites, and those messages are easy to ignore. Do you remember your first time? Your first experience with another guy? Your first story with another gay guy?

The subject of straight-identifying men who have sex with other men is a fascinating one, in that it shines a light on some extremely potent, personal concepts pertaining to identity and sexuality and one’s place in society. Fewer people know that some men and women have same-sex encounters, yet nonetheless perceive themselves as exclusively straight. When a closeted gay or bisexual man has sex with another man, he views that sex as reflecting his secret identity. He is not open about that identity, likely because he fears discrimination.

Tom was pretty sure (and relative comfortable) he was definitely gay and had kissed and made out with other men in clubs. Just he never went beyond some heavy petting. Being gay and having gay friends, I hear a lot about 2 kinds of dealings with straight guys. The first is youthful experimentation, before the participants are fully aware or comfortable with their sexual orientation. Again, I know nothing of the sort, and always considered straight guys to be completely unattainable.

We recently asked straight men of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us about their experiences hooking up with other guys. Here's what they said: And as a heads up, some of these stories get kinda. .

As a queer man in a fraternity, my college career was straight men trying to explain away their queer tendencies as jokes and misunderstandings. (Bombastic Side Eye) A Reddit user recently. .